Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Denise Simpson, a master life and leadership coach who helps women step into their authentic and feminine power. So they can lead like visionaries influence with grace, create a legacy of contribution and service. You'll hear about real leadership clients with real problems, navigating their success in life, business, [00:00:30] and career. If you are ready to become a masterful leader, then this podcast was made for you. So let's get started.
Speaker 1: Hey, welcome back, my friend. Happy you are here. We're gonna talk about fulfillment, your level of fulfillment in the areas of your life, like in the area of finances or in the area [00:01:00] of your career, or as, or how about in your personal growth and development. We're gonna check in with your level of fulfillment in your intimate relationships or your health and wellness, maybe even in your friendships, how fulfilled are you in regards to self care and rest and relax, or maybe even fulfillment in your spirituality or in your faith? Fulfillment is [00:01:30] an emotion when you feel fulfilled. I mean, think about this for yourself. When you feel truly fulfilled, let's say in your career right now, let's say you are in, uh, an executive position. Let's say you have been working really, really hard. Your trajectory has been interesting, right? It hasn't been a linear shot to this, this new role, but it, you got here, you're here and you're looking back and you're [00:02:00] reflecting on that labyrinth that you had to navigate through.
Speaker 1: And there's a feeling of fulfillment that comes over you, it washes over you. It's an emotion. So you're feeling a certain way about this one area of your life. And on a scale of one to 10, I want for you to check in how fulfill are you emotionally? How fulfilled are you in this particular area of your life? [00:02:30] And I ask my clients this often, as a matter of fact, we do a baseline survey test where I ask them to rate themselves from one to 10, 10 being extremely fulfilled, right? That is the max. You are there, you are sitting in it. You are feeling all the feelings you are fulfilled. And one being not at all fulfilled. And of course, five is the halfway [00:03:00] mark. And so what I get to do with my clients is we get to check in with their levels of fulfillment in all these areas of their lives.
Speaker 1: And we do this as soon as we start working with one another. And it's a very simple survey. There's a few question on there. Again, the areas of your life that are the most important to my client, right? These are the areas which again are finances, [00:03:30] career or business. Number three is personal growth and development. Number four is intimate relationships. Five is health and wellness, six to spiritual development, faith, or religion. Seven is rest and relaxation or self care. And the last is friendships. And so what we get to do is measure again from one to 10. And we do that immediately upon working with one another, because the intent here is to get conscious [00:04:00] of where your desires are not being met.
Speaker 1: And what we get to do then three months later is measure against your initial results, because we wanna pick up an area of your life that you wanna focus on. You know, I get to serve leader and I get to serve her in all areas of her life. I am a life and leadership coach for women in leadership [00:04:30] roles. And so when we talk about life coaching, I'm talking about all areas of your life, not just the leadership life, not just the career life. Chances are, you are at the top of the mountain because you have, you know, you've gotten yourself there, right? Leadership coaching is all about strategy. It's all about skillset. It's the mindset in both her life and in her leadership that I'm most concerned about because [00:05:00] I can talk to you about the strategy all day, every day. That's all I do.
Speaker 1: I teach it's curriculum. It's my expertise. Absolutely. But what I'm mostly concerned about is your mindset and, and taking it really granular into your fulfillment levels. What aren't you fulfilled in this area? Or why are you in this particular area and where do you wanna be on this scale from one [00:05:30] to 10? And so when I coach my leaders, I coach her in every single area of her life. And that's where we get to do the real work. We get to really dig into what your beliefs are because your beliefs about money or your beliefs about intimacy or your beliefs about spirituality will impact the thoughts you have on a daily basis. And the thoughts that you have [00:06:00] will influence or inspire an emotion and that emotion can feel really fulfilling, or it can feel very, very defeating, but here's, what's really important to understand that feeling, whatever it is that you identify, that feeling will then inspire action from you.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't matter how many, you know, steps you take strategies, you take, you know, all of the [00:06:30] action plan that you wanna take. But if you do not have the thought or the feeling combination, right, then all that action will not be sustainable. And you'll see in the results you've created. So now that's some deeper work that I get to do with my clients. We won't do that today on this episode. But what I wanna do is introduce to you this idea, fulfillment, that it is a thought that you have about this area of your life that [00:07:00] is creating the emotion of fulfillment. So when you're taking the survey and I implore you to do that right now, let's check in right now on your finances from one to 10, where are you? What level of fulfillment are you at currently? Are you at a 10, maybe a nine, maybe you're at a five or perhaps you're at a one right now.
Speaker 1: And be honest with yourself. This is for your eyes only [00:07:30] check in on the thoughts that you're having write down some of those thoughts. What am I thinking about right now in regards to my finances is a thought that you may have right now is that, you know, money doesn't grow on trees, or I have to work really hard for money or the area I live in right now has no viable jobs for the money that I want for the salary that I I feel is, is worthy. Like, what are those thoughts [00:08:00] you're having? And then check in with that emotion. Is it defeat? Is it envy? Is it sadness? Is it shame? Is it guilt? Is it fulfilling?
Speaker 1: So the thought that you have will inspire or evoke an emotion from you, and if you're not at a 10 that's okay. [00:08:30] I don't know who is at a 10 right now. I know I'm not, I'm at an eight right now, but I always leave room for growth and expansion. So I'm, I, I don't ever wanna be at 10 in any of these areas. I am ready to and expand. And I'm curious about the value I provide in this world and how the value will be reflected back to me in the energy of money. So for you check in with what emotions are coming up, because of these thoughts, [00:09:00] you're having about your finances and write down where you're at on a scale of one to 10, one, again, not at all fulfilled and 10 extremely fulfilled. And you're going to take this serve right now in real time, not in what you expect to feel in the future, right?
Speaker 1: A lot of us go into the future and, and we wanna, you know, rate ourselves in future tens. No, I want for you [00:09:30] to be real with yourself right here, right now, the second area is career or business. Again, one to 10, where are you in this area? Are you at a 10? Maybe you are, maybe you have reached the summit. Maybe you are at the peak of this mountain. You know, when you're looking back and you're thinking of all of the, the things experiences that you've had to go through to get to where at, and you're feeling truly fulfilled and where you're at right now, or [00:10:00] like a lot of my clients, they are below a five. They are not fulfilled in their careers. And especially because of the pandemic and really how it has shifted our energy and has shifted our perspective on, on work, on the workflow.
Speaker 1: Many of my clients are ready to leave their corporate lives. They're ready to go into the world and find more autonomy, autonomy in their money and their time and their energy. [00:10:30] And they're looking for ways to leverage their brain, their energy, their, their wisdom, their education, their experience. And I help them do that as well. So where are you on this scale in regards to your career or business, did you just get a graduate degree and you are ready, ready to leverage this education? And perhaps you're at a five right now and you wanna be maybe at a six or a seven and you're ready to move in that direction. And so you and intentional, you're looking for other [00:11:00] means of employment. Perhaps you have a side hustle or perhaps you are wanting to move into a totally different industry. So where are you right now in regards to your career business, we're gonna do the same thing for personal growth and development.
Speaker 1: You know, for me, personal growth is so important. I invest so much money in my brain and in my personal wellbeing, I have so many people that I've hired to help me in [00:11:30] my life. So many people that I've hired to take me to the next level of success in my business, in my body, in my spirituality, in my psychology, I am someone who believes in heavy investment in my personal growth and development. And for you, it may be your professional development, right? It could be going back to school, which will also impact your personal life, right? It could be, [00:12:00] you know, going to these conferences or trainings to help develop yourself as a, as a better leader, maybe. So where are you on a scale of one to 10 in regards to personal growth and develop the next one is your intimate relationships. Now, let's be honest here.
Speaker 1: My friends, many, many of my clients score less than a five in this area. They are hyper focused on career. They're hyper focused on raising families right now. They're hyper [00:12:30] focused on finances and put food on the table for their family. And sometimes their intimate lives get put on the back burner. And, and that's okay because that's a season that you're in right now. That's understandable. But what I want for you to do is get conscious of, of what's happening right now in that ear area of your life. Because I don't want for you to then wake up 10 years from now in the same marriage with [00:13:00] no intimacy and no fulfillment in that particular area of your life. We want to be real with ourselves right here, right now, so that we can get conscious of what it is we need to work on.
Speaker 1: . So one to 10, where are you on intimate relationships? The next one you'll do is health and wellness. One on a scale of one to 10, again, where are you in regards to fulfillment with health and wellness? And this of course is [00:13:30] mental wellbeing, your physical wellbeing, your spiritual wellbeing, where are you on that scale? I think for me, for sure, health and wellness is, is always in the eight or nine or 10 area because health and wellness has been so important to me for many reasons. for many, many reasons. Um, and this is a season where, because I'm in my mid forties, I am really hyper focused on being a woman [00:14:00] who is thriving in her body into her fifties, sixties, seventies, eighties, nineties. I mean, I am now being, I'm conscious now and I'm taking action now to really set me for the next half of my life.
Speaker 1: So health and wellness is so important to me. Am I fulfilled in it? You know, I fluctuate between an eight and a 10 often, really? I do, you know, there's days where I feel like an athlete. I feel so strong. I'm putting quality foods in my body. I'm putting quality [00:14:30] information in my brain. I'm taking very positive actions. And then there's days where I just say, uh, not today, you know, I, I don't, I don't have that mental power right now. And I just wanna take a little break from that. And so sometimes it'll fluctuate back down, but I never ever go past a five because I know that the next day I'm gonna get back up and do this, do the same stuff again, like I'm gonna take a day off, but then the next day I'm back at it. So [00:15:00] I've programmed my brain to, to behave in this way.
Speaker 1: And so where are you in regards to health and wellness? The next one is spiritual development or, or your faith or religion. How are you, uh, you know, measuring your fulfillment level in this area? Are you someone who, you know, believes in God or believes in source or in the universe or in law of attraction or a deity or, or a Saint [00:15:30] who do you turn to a higher power that you turn to for faith and reassurance? Are you committed to this religion? Are you committed to this faith? Are you committed to your spiritual evolution and your, and the development of your soul or your soul's purpose? Where are you on a scale of one to 10 regarding spare development? For me, I'm at a 10, for sure. And I think I have been at a 10, really most of my adult life, especially when [00:16:00] I found spirituality for myself in my early twenties, something that I have taken very seriously.
Speaker 1: I believe in God, I am a woman who was raised Catholic. I will die a cat Catholic. I have the sacraments of Catholicism. I'm someone who respects religion, but I don't feel the need to demonstrate that in, in what a typical Catholic would, would demonstrate that as I'm [00:16:30] more of a spiritual person with a spiritual relat to God and I am at a 10 at this point in my life to where are you in regards to spiritual development, faith or religion, next one is rest and relaxation or self care. Listen, I, that is a non-negotiable for me. This is one area of my life. I learned very young to take very seriously. I remembered when I went off [00:17:00] to college, you know, I've been working since I was 16 and, you know, worked a whole lot during college, um, juggled, you know, full-time work and, and full-time school.
Speaker 1: And I remembered, oh, always taking good care of my spiritual wellbeing, my physical wellbeing, my mental wellbeing by taking good care of, of my body, my hygiene, you know, the, the spa treatments were always [00:17:30] on the agenda. That was a non-negotiable for me. I, um, I take ver I take pride in, in, in my body and what I look like. And more importantly, how it makes me feel, which is complete fulfillment. And so self care has been very important for me. And my family knows this, my, my children and my husband know this, something that I will not negotiate on. So how about for you? Where are you on a scale of one to 10 regarding your rest and relaxation [00:18:00] or your self care? Very important that we put conscious effort into this one area. If you're gonna start with anything, it should be this area, because this will be the foundation for the other areas of your life.
Speaker 1: If you are taking good care of yourself and you're resting, and that means good sleep, it means good sex. It means good food. It means fulfillment, joy love in your life. When, when you take good [00:18:30] care of yourself and, and again, that's demonstrated in many ways, but whatever it is for, you know, that this will impact the other areas of your life. So let's start with this one, maybe rest in relaxation or self care. And the last area of your life are your friendships. Where are you on a scale of one to 10 in regards to fulfillment? Do you have [00:19:00] friendships that make you come alive? Either people in your life that you surround yourself with that, you know, are gonna call you out on your BS are gonna hold you accountable to your word. You know, I have a friend who gives me a hard time and I love her so much.
Speaker 1: She's like, that's not what you said last week. And I have to remind her, I, I have the right to evolve and I'm not the same person I was last week. cause [00:19:30] she hangs on to in my, every word, just like I hang onto every word she says, but that relationship brings me so much fulfillment. I come alive. I feel like, like I can do anything with her by my side. It's the best relationship ever. How are your friendships? I also have a board of directors and these are women that I turn to for advice, life advice, you know, it's, [00:20:00] it's been a very sacred circle of friends that, that I've been intentional in cultivating. And I'm at a 10 in regards to friendships, true fulfilled in this area. Where are you in this particular area of your life? I know you're busy raising families and taking on some major responsibilities at work.
Speaker 1: You are a leader and you have a lot to do. And perhaps friendships [00:20:30] is not on the agenda of this season and that's okay. You know, score what you score, but be honest. And if friendships aren't important to you, that's okay. You don't have to put so much emphasis into this area or any other area of your life here that you don't feel is a priority for you. But I do want for you to complete these areas of your life and answer honestly for yourself and get conscious of what you want to do [00:21:00] in this particular area. So again, um, the emotion is fulfillment. If the, if it, if you're not at a 10, where are you on that scale? And after you do this for yourself, I want for you to pick the one area of your life that you want to focus on moving into this new season of your life.
Speaker 1: Is it finances? Is it your career business? Is it your personal growth development? Is that your intimate relationships, [00:21:30] perhaps your health and wellness is number one. How about your spiritual development, faith or religion? Maybe it's your rest and relaxation and self care or it's friendships. You wanna cultivate true, authentic, genuine friendships. This season of your life. Let's get intentional here. So you pick the number one area. And what you can do is, is do a hierarchy here, do one all the way to eight. These are eight areas of your life. [00:22:00] And what you can do is maybe focus on the first three, the top three. These are the ones that you really wanna focus on and then write down what actions can you take today that are within your control to move towards a higher number on this like art scale, right? Let's say finances, you're out of five.
Speaker 1: What can you do today to take it to a six or a than within maybe [00:22:30] a month, two or three from now, from today? What can you do? Right. Can you invest in another stock? Can you look at, you know, cryptocurrency, can you look at selling some things from your house? Can you look at another revenue stream in, into your household? What, what can you do? What is within your control today? So that a month, two or three from now, we get to look at moving that scale, perhaps [00:23:00] maybe into a six, maybe a seven at that point, but be realistic in that we're not gonna jump from a five to a 10 in a matter months. That's not how this works, right? This is an ongoing reflection of your life, right? This is ongoing. Like I, you know, I said earlier for me, I fluctuate in some of these areas, sometimes a five, sometimes an eight, sometimes a 10.
Speaker 1: And then I go back down [00:23:30] depending on the season I'm at, it's not like we wanna achieve a 10. And then we achieve the 10 and we don't have to do any more work in that area. It's not like a college diploma. It's not there forever more. No, that's not. How life is. Life is fluctuating. There's an ebb and flow to life. There are challenges in your life that are gonna come out of the blue. There are things that you will not have control over. And so perhaps that season in your life, your career may be a number one, [00:24:00] right? Or your health and wellness may be a one. So have grace with yourself as you move through this fulfillment survey, but let's practice self honesty today. And should you need really any help or guidance or coaching? You know where to find me?
Speaker 1: That's what I'm here for. I'm here to serve you, the leader I'm to serve you and every area of your life. That is what I am equipped to [00:24:30] do. All right, my friend, I hope you found today's episode helpful. The fulfillment survey again is a tool I use. We do this as soon as I get started with a client, and then we move into doing post test throughout our time together. So get started on this today, before we get into this new season of your life. All right, my friend, thank you so much for your time today. I am over [00:25:00] on IG at Dr. Denise Simpson. Go hit me up over there. Tell me hello. Tell me that you found is episode helpful, or if you have any questions for me, I'll see you there. Take good care. Bye for now.
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